By: Natalie Jean
I think everyone wants to be the 'hostess with the mostest' more than anything else, right?
Hmm, maybe it's just me then.
As far back as I can remember, I've always loved entertaining people. Not in the sense of being in the spotlight necessarily (I've grown out of that as I got older) but more so just providing a place where friends and family feel welcomed + comfortable. To be the woman that knows how to make everyone feel at home and connected, that is my desire. I dream of one day being the mom that makes snacks for her kids + their friends and has the best birthday parties + sleepovers. I just can't shake that need for fostering community and hospitality!
Some days actually being a good host can be tricky! I'm an introvert at the core and I have my days where I just want to enjoy my own company and I don't want to go anywhere. Thankfully it has been a rare occasion, but when people are coming over to our place and it happens to coincide with one of my "I need space and sleep and quiet" days, it gets really hard to have 'the mostest.' In order to combat that, I try to focus on the things that need to get done before company comes over. As I get ready, I listen to music and dance around to put myself in a peppy mood. True story.
So what can YOU do on those days? (Or maybe you're asking what to do everyday because hospitality just isn't your thing). Keep reading for 3 simple tips to make your space welcoming + take these baby steps to becoming more hospitable!
- Clean Up - There is nothing more off-putting than walking into someone's home and being greeted with a mess or a strange odor. When you've answered 'yes' to the following questions, you're ready for a guest.
- Did you take out the trash? (kitchen, bathroom, office, etc.)
- Did you wash any dirty dishes in the sink?
- Did you sweep or vacuum? (or at least in the rooms where your guests will be)
- Did you rid the tv + coffee table of those 2 inches of dust?
- Are all clothes put away in the bedroom and toys/work/electronics put away or at least somewhat organized?
- Is the toilet clean?
- Atmosphere - light a candle, have some fun music playing lightly in the background, make some cookies, have food ready to go + the table set if you've invited guests over for a meal (There is nothing more awkward in my opinion than arriving somewhere and the host wasn't ready for you. If this is the case, and your guests ask to help then let them! Don't make them wait awkwardly for you to be ready)
- Backup activities - It's important to have a board game, movie, or activity on hand in case the visit gets boring. I can't tell you how many times my husband and I have planned to do something and we had to cancel because of the weather or the place was closed and the night was saved by a board game! Pick up something like Operation, Apples to Apples, a deck of cards, or Ratuki (our new favorite) for a fun backup plan.
With these three tips, you're sure to be off on the right foot for a game night, dinner party, or afternoon visit. I know that some days are chaotic and it can be hard to get all three tips checked off your list, so I would say to at least make sure you take out the trash and pick up some of the clutter. You'll feel so much better when your guests arrive, trust me.