By: Page Olsen
She just graduated from her top choice of school and an employer offered her her dream job on the spot. She gets every role she auditions for, has countless friends, and charms everyone she meets. Her significant other adores her and everyone talks about how perfect their relationship is. On top of it all, she’s absolutely gorgeous. The world seems to fall into her lap.
Maybe you know someone like this, or at least have in the past. I sure do. Some people seem to have all the “luck.” And while we look on at these people, perhaps with a twinge of jealousy, something inside of us whispers some of these words:
“Why not me?”
“I guess I’m not just as talented.”
“I’ll never be as confident as him.”
“There must be something wrong with me.”
“If only I could be as pretty as she is, then people would like me more.” “My life is nowhere near as perfect.”
Comparison gets at the best of us. I find it far too easy to look at my life and wish it could look more like someone else’s. Yet as we spiral down the path of comparison and frustration, we forget a few things.
Comparison detracts from our enjoyment of the blessings that we have. If we are so focused on what other people have going on, we will lose sight of some of the great things in our lives. Try to dwell on the positives in your own life in order to fight comparative thinking.
Comparison takes away from friendships. If we constantly compare ourselves with our friends, the negative effects will show in our community. We will less likely encourage each other and strive to build others up if we have feelings of jealousy towards them.
People don’t always let us see the struggles. Just because that girl does not appear to have any issues does not mean that she has none. People tend to show the positive highlights of life on social media, not the lows. Nobody posts an unfortunate selfie to instagram unless to poke fun at themselves. Fight the negative effects of comparison by remembering that nobody is perfect .
Other people have insecurities, too. People criticize themselves more than others do. The girl that you think is absolutely beautiful might hate her nose. Who knows? She herself might struggle with comparative thinking.
This week, I encourage you to steer clear of comparing yourself to others and focus on building others up instead. Additionally, dwell on the blessings in your life, even if they feel insignificant or small. Remember, life isn’t a competition.
Do you have some additional tips that stop you from comparing yourself to others? Comment below and let us know!